Dear Ashimik,
I undertsand your situation but I must say that you have wasted your time appealing against a decision you yourself no was lawfully made.
As a result of this, you cannot lodge any application whilst you have an appeal pending with the Home Office. You must wait for the outcome first.
Following a decision, you can then proceed to lodge a settlement application outside of the Immigration rules SET (O) on the basis of 10 years lawful long residency.
I dont think you could apply for a SET (M) application on the basis of your marriage to yoru partner as I believe the marriage must consist for 2 years before an application for ILR is made.
I hope this helps. Just await the decision of the appeal and proceed thereon.
Regards,
Seda